Society worked best when we had social mechanisms that made men more masculine, in an objective sense.
Whether it was tribal rituals in Africa, all boy boarding schools in the West, the military draft (in almost all countries), etc, societies that trained their young males to be as masculine as possible (and weeding out those who didn’t make that cut) were societies in which most men were the “real men” that women today crave, and societies where there was little standard deviation in how “manly” the male populace was.
Human mating worked best when society was like that.
The way attraction works is that men are attracted to how women look, while women are attracted to men for what they can provide (physical strength, protection, financial security, etc). In other words, women trade sex for the masculine resources a man provides. That’s why men are supposed to be the “providers”.
Many men have lost their masculinity and don’t behave like they were meant to.
In the past, men and women traded these things in relatively equal amounts. However, today, men are physically weaker than ever before and earn less compared to women than ever before.
Men have allowed women to have the upper hand in human mating; since men have less to offer in terms of their physical fitness, strength, physique, protection, and financial resources, women have more bargaining power. This means that women have the upper hand in relationships while men desperately try to throw money at them in order to get pity sex. Since men are not manly enough, the balance is tipped.
Society worked best when there were penalties for failing to meet the requirements of manliness. For example masturbation used to be punishable. So was a refusal to join the military, as was desertion. Being lazy and not working resulted in banishment from the village/town. Inability to pass a rite of passage into manhood was met with banishment and scorn. Porn used to be met with social ostracism and was considered almost as bad as rape and worse.
Women love toxic masculinity.
Forget all that feminism and how traditional masculine practices are toxic. The West shunned traditional masculinity and look at what happened: women are more disgusted by men than ever before. Women lament the lack of ‘real men’ in their lives while mocking, degrading, and hating modern men with every fiber in their being. Gender relations have never been worse. Marriages are crumbling not because men are dominant, but because they are submissive.
Monogamy is NOT sexual marxism. Sorry to break it to you “involuntary celibates” (Incels). Monogamy was NOT a utopia where any basement dweller loser could get laid….. it was like the system I described above.
Most of you would have been banished, disowned or killed.
Every guy should master to become a real man.
This is a list of things I honestly feel a mature man must own, be or do: Be fearless. Be resilient. Live, speak and listen from the heart. Be vulnerable. Make love passionately. Don’t take yourself so fucking seriously, have a sense of humor. Develop body, mind and spirit. But above all, be real.
A real man is devoted to the development of body, mind and spirit. Not to stay ahead of other men, not out of fear of being defeated, but because he has more to offer when he is healthy and present. When push comes to shove every man should be able to defend his wife, children and honor.
A real man does not hold back. When he makes love he opens up to all his rawness and all his tenderness and he gives his woman everything he has got. He does not shy away from intimacy. A coward is always trying to hide his weak spots, a real man works on them.
A real man has the balls to travel outside his comfort zone. A real man owns his anger but doesn’t hide his feelings and intentions. He is not afraid to be gentle nor afraid to be sad.
A real man should be flexible and reliable at the same time. If necessary he can start all over again at any given moment. He accepts his fate but doesn’t become a victim of it. Fearless, but not without fear. A real man has the courage to do things that frighten him when the situation calls for it.
In the end, a real man does all these things because that’s what he is: a man.
